Supporting and guiding you into personal empowerment.
Why This?
Everybody, at some point, has to deal with circumstances they would never choose. Everybody faces adversity. There is loss.
And then there is — afterwards. Everyone struggles in the aftermath.
Yet there is no real acknowledgment of loss as something that happens to us all every day in a million cuts as things change, go away, or arrive unwelcomely. —Or of the legitimate (and often extended) sadness that is often felt as a consequence. The grief that can sit with us for weeks afterwards as we struggle with a sense of powerlessness.
Our experience in all this is often ‘delegitimised' because our culture only ‘allows’ for grief around bereavement (the loss of a loved one). We’re supposed to be happy! There is even the idea that ‘suffering’ is experienced only by real victims: people who are underprivileged, or who have been traumatised.
But that’s not true. Right now, the reality for the Middle classes across the world, is that in recent years their experience of loss has gone exponential—with millions floundering as their nations, systems and relationships fail them. They’re falling into hardship, poverty and grief at record rates.
This is serious, and should be taken seriously. When grief descends upon us, we find ourselves not only disorientated and feeling alone, but often disempowered to the point of becoming reduced—and shutting down. So often we end up in shame in our experience of loss. Suicides are at an all-time high in the world, as people struggle with absolute despair.
I give voice to this, and space for being in this space. I offer resources around this, to buoy you through this time and help to build You for the future.
Why Now?
We all want to see the world whole and well: a safe place for all Life to flourish in.
We want to realise our hopes, desires, dreams and talents.
We want to laugh, experience, expand, and plan vibrant futures.
Most of us, want to make a positive difference in the world.
Yet our world is changing. Even before Covid19 it was changing at a rapid rate. Global economic, political and social crises have been escalating. The political and societal systems that have made our lives work as they have so far, no longer function well. Our environment has reached breaking point.
It’s reduced opportunity for millions, throwing many people onto the sidelines of their lives. In this sea of change, people have lost their means to survive, lost their health, lost important relationships, and too often, their home.
Many of us are frightened about the mounting environmental devastation, the wars, and the mass displacement of people from their dysfunctional nations, while population explosion continues.
More than ever, we’re struggling and suffering.
Along with losing opportunity, a sense of agency and loved ones, we’ve lost our sense of safety in this global, changing, unstable world. Looking at an uncertain, unknown future with all this on the table, we’ve lost the sense of possibility for ourselves, and particularly our kids.
What will become of us all?
That question alone underpins the scale of our losses, on so many levels.
It speaks too, to our terrible grief about it all. We’re grieving these changes and our losses in them, and feeling awful and disempowered. It feels terrible and endless.
We are in a time of change, and dissolution and crisis. And it’s in this space that we’re all still trying to live lives of connection, direction, manifestation and joy! We all need to be coming out of our best Selves to respond to and shift this effectively. Not from our most broken Selves.
Five Inescapable Truths
The truth is that all this change is being generated by each and every one of us en masse—in our every attitude, choice and action—which ripple out from us across our communities, cities and nations, to create these effects.
The truth is that no matter how we may each personally feel about this, we’re all heading to the same destination—together. And there is nothing to be done to change that. We are all being called to meet the challenges of our times and our lives, and must deal with this both collectively, and personally.
The truth is that while keeping in mind that we are part of this great collective—the only thing we are truly in charge of, is ourselves.
The truth is that to deal with this collectively, it is each of our personal responsibilities to transform our Selves into Who we need to Be to manage our own part effectively and constructively. —By each becoming our wisest, most responsible, and most noble Selves.
Who will you Be, and what will you do to to take command of your Self and become all you are capable of being?
Who will you Be, and what will you do, to step forward and contribute in this time of crisis in a way that is healing to all?
Who will you Be, and what will you do to be part of creating to a ‘worthy’ legacy that Humanity imprints on this place?
The truth is that the greatest personal leverage we each have to create real and meaningful change in our changing world and thus in our own lives — is by working on ourselves.
And we have immediate influence over this!
So I share information, ideas, tools and resources that grow general awareness and self-awareness so that we can make better and even great choices, while offering practical and positive approaches for taking responsibility for our great power of generating, and using it to create a positive, sustainable and joyful future.
Why Me?
I’ve been where you are, hurting on my own loss and grief journey. I didn’t believe that this could happen to me, yet it did. My pain in it was eventually so deeply painful and uncomfortable that I no longer wanted to wake up to face my life or Self. And the effects of my despair on the lives of those who love me were simply awful.
But I did find the way out. The good news is, there is one.
Years afterwards, as my own personal micro-experience became apparent at the global macro level, I thought, "I have to create awareness about what loss and grief (and particularly suffering) mean in our lives, and how to overcome their debilitating effects.” Not only because we don’t have to live this incredibly painful way but because it’s clear that the world would be a healthier and overall better place for all Life if Human Beings weren’t hurting, lost, and enraged by what’s happened to them.
Having been there myself, I can show you how you can actually empower yourself through this, and out onto the other side.
What I learned on my own path is that we are uniquely experiencing ‘Selves’ who make meaning out of our experiences—out of which we decide our worth, our level of power in the world, and our possibilities. But we don’t always get this right, leading to personal anguish and poor choices.
The key point here, is that our choices are generative, and both shape us, and create our lives. ‘Understanding', and choosing from a centred, informed and empowered space therefore—are crucial.
One thing I know is that you can’t DO anything about what you don’t know and can’t see. With a deeper understandings of your Self and the unique Context you’re in (and its limitations and opportunities), the blind spots disappear — and are enabled to make really powerful choices. The kinds of choices that amplify you. The kind that raise everyone and everything in your life up — so that you can live deeply fulfilled, while making your unique contribution that constantly evolves your world into quality of life.